REAL MEN

REAL MEN
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I will be starting this week with my great men but note that this article is not to ‘hurt’ anyone but to see many youths change their thought(s) about some salient important things so that we can have a better nation or society blossoming in God. Is being a man all about the swags, muscle or the so called 6 packs, ego and so on, who then is a real man?
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Let’s start with this; not all women are for you to go beyond platonic friendship, you need to know when to apply brakes. Some men are in the habit of wanting to have a so called love relationship with virtually all the ladies they meet or even know. Saying it the way it is; they see almost all ladies as potential lover! It shouldn’t be like that, I feel embarrassed when I see men who are in this category because to me it reduces them I’m sorry. Stop going to church or to other religious gathering with the sole reason to ‘get’ a lady, switch off your "lady searching Wi-Fi" when you get there and be focused.
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Another thing is pride, the ego that probably comes with ‘I am a man’, being a male does not make you a man, a real man is the one who sees himself the way he sees others with total reference to God. Over the years, I’ve seen men who needs to be counseled but will not want it because it is coming from a woman, they feel what can she offer? There are even some that when they eventually leave their shell to approach the lady, they will want to know to the last details about the lady or woman before asking for advice or counsel. It is not about gender, it about the anointing or calling on the person which is the God in that person, when you don’t see that; you cannot get the best from such person.
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Respect; I personally regard men who regard others (both their fellow man and women). There are no boundaries or classes that defined a group of people that deserves to be respected. ‘Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honour giving preference to one another’ (Rom. 12:10). It is not a crime to greet or exchange pleasantries with someone before other discussion, this act creates an atmosphere of friendly discussion.
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Flirting with ladies, drinking, indecent dressings and all that does not make you a man as some profess; faithfulness, decency is a virtue, get it! If you want a taste of what a real man is, be connected to God genuinely, get a hold on your emotion, control your erection, fear God, be prayerful, stand out, stand for the truth no matter the pressure and most importantly follow His timing for your life.
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By nature, God made you a leader, it is now left for you to remain there or drop down, be a real man!

If You Want To Be Always Happy In Your Life, You Must Read This Short Inspiring Story

If You Want To Be Always Happy In Your Life, You Must Read This Short Inspiring Story

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder.

I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that that lit up her entire being.

She said, “Hi, handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.

“Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.

She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel.”

“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and share a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.”

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began: “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. “You have to laugh and find humor every day. You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it!”

“There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change.”

“Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.”

She concluded her speech by courageously singing The Rose. She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the years end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be.

Lessons:

• You are never too old to learn.
• Laugh and find humor everyday .
• Don’t let change overwhelm you, let change help you find opportunities you may have never seen!

Respect

RESPECT
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This is another topic that bothers me a lot as many young
ones are fast throwing this important virtue away!
Unfortunately some older ones too are falling into this, it is
now looking old fashioned to have respect or courtesy for
older ones, age group, oneself and even ministers of God.
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God created all people, and created them differently for
reasons and purpose we may not understand. Regardless of
how we perceive other people to be, they are God's creations,
and it God's will for us to show respect to everyone. Even the
Bible in 1Peters 2:17 says ‘Show proper respect to everyone,
love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.’
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Respect is an important component in any mutually beneficial
relationship whether it is marital, friendship, family or business.
Fortunately, you have the power to build respect by the way in
which you conduct your life and by the way you address
others. So many of us Christians overlook this topic,
unfortunately the internet has helped more persons to neglect
respect. This is not pride don’t get me wrong, let’s face the
truth, I remember a young person sending me message on one
of this social media app and started with “hey”, it took me
time to compose myself and what response to give him! Some
modernized it so to say and will call you pet names and I
wonder where they hid their respect.
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That it is social media does not mean you can disregard the
person for the sake of God! I once saw a youth approaching an
elderly person, passing through a small gate and the older had
to wait for the younger to pass, my father my God, what
happened to her allowing the elderly one first, where is our
virtue! When you do not have respect as a single, do you think
marriage will suddenly make you respectful? NO, what you are
as single is what you carry into marriage and trust me ladies,
no man wants a woman that will not respect them.
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It is even in the house of God, it is now common if I must say
for one to be ministering and some youths saying their
contradictory unruly comment simultaneously even distracting
others; discipline is lost. Give honour to whom honour is due,
let us together revive this dying virtue starting from you.
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If they respect you, respect them, if they disrespect you, still
respect them. Do not allow the actions of others to decrease
your good manners, because you represent yourself, not
others. I've learned in life and business that it is not so much
what you say that counts, it is how you make people feel.
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Respect your elders, minors, and everyone in between. There
are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that
deserves to be respected. 'Be kindly affectionate to one
another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one
another;' Rom. 12:10.